He has continual eye contact
Not looking away at people
To the left or right
Or coming toward us
Ever steady
But he’s not staring
He’s beholding
He’s present
Relaxed
All there
Doesn’t interrupt to say
“You forgot about this” or
“You really ought to try that” or
“The problem with Obama is…”
He isn’t itching
To score points
He isn’t counting the seconds
Until he can deliver
The conversational coup de grâce
He’s OK with pauses
Doesn’t rush in to fill them with chitchat
He’s got an intimate relationship
With silence
No phone in his hand
No checking it every two minutes
No “Just let me take this”
After I’ve talked for a spell
Having read my soul
He speaks slowly to me
With encouragement
Or appreciation
Or in the case of pain just shared
He says, “Oh, you, too?”
After being with him
I feel like
I’m the most important person in the world
Probably just like
The last ten people
Who’ve talked with him
Mark - I love this. What a gift to know a friend who reallllly listens - with his ears and heart. Note to self to practice this more lovingly. :)
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